It has been 3 weeks now since Finn has been home from the hospital. Having him home has finally made us feel "normal". Having a baby and then having to leave him in the hospital while you go home is definitely a weird feeling. Now that he is home we are all falling more and more in love with him each day.So far he has been a really good baby. Like really good. He never cries, and all he does is eat, sleep, and urinate. (He doesn't drop stinky surprises with each diaper change. Nope he is gracious enough to do it only one time every other day.) He does everything you'd think a perfect baby would/should do. (Yes, he even sleeps through the night at 4 weeks old!) Sometimes when I look at him he looks perfect. Like you would never know that he has Ds. Then the majority of the time when you look at him you know that he has Ds. Because Finn has Ds, my hopes, dreams, and expectations for him haven't changed. They are still the same as they were before he was born, if not doubly intense.
Because he is such a good baby and doing everything that a baby should do, I fully expect him to sit up, crawl,walk, and live a normal life just as my other children have done without any problems or delays. Although Ds has its challenges and limitations-most of which I don't even know about-that's how ignorant I am; in my mind at this time I am in a state of denial, as I am sure Finn will do all of these things, No Problem. How can he not, right?
I know I need to start reading up on Ds and I know I need to start calling therapists and specialists, but right now my baby is perfect. Doing everything that he should be doing. I know that once I make those calls and read those books, my state of denial will become a reality. A lifelong reality.
IGNORANCE IS BLISS
I think I'll enjoy it a little bit longer.....
8 comments:
Perfect title! I also told Kurt the same thing you typed! We miss you lots! I will call you when I get back from KC next week :)
He is stinkin' cute!! All your babies have been good and mellow. Kinda makes me jealous. He will do normal things, just like your other children, it may take a little bit more work than it did with the others. Think of all the things we take advantage of that seem so easy and come natural to us. It will truly make you appreciate what you are able and capable of doing and the things that come so naturally for us to do. It's not ignorant to think he's perfect. Yes one day you'll have to start reading about his special needs, but Finn is in a very good home. He's where he's supposed to be. Having parents and a family that have the expectations that he will be normal and do normal things, sit up, crawl, walk, run, throw balls, and do boy things is the drive that will make Finn who he is supposed to be. You are his biggest advocate and wanting him to strive to be all he can be is not being ignorant as long as you know that along the path much patience will be needed. I'm sure it's not easy, but if anyone can handle this You and Kurt got it! Love You Much!
He's so loveable! Just like his mama. He's also so lucky to get such a great family!
Rachel
He is perfect! What an amazing little guy-he is seriously so cute with all that hair and cute chub. You will raise him Kurt and Kanani style-layed back and chill and he will be one amazing boy just like your other four-wow you have five kids!
I already love your little guy. I can't wait to meet him! You are a great mama & you've got plenty of time to "get informed", just enjoy your time lovin' on him.
Kanani, he is BEAutiful! wHAT a lucky lady you are! My sister has a child with down syndrome, Noah, age 11 now. He is so much fun. We are special friends and he brightens our lives. My sis lives in Chicago, but she is involved in a local DS support group. They have monthly meetings, activities for the kids (a yearly christmas party, a summer party, dances, and more), and she does their newsletter. She loves being able to talk with others who might be dealing with similar situations and she highly recommends it to others.
Have fun--enjoy every minute that you can! :)
so glad I found your blog. I will enjoy stalking your family in days to come. I'm anxious to meet the latest Hepworth boy.
He is so adorable and you are so ahead of the game. Your hopes and dreams shouldn't change for him. He can and will do all of the things he wants to do and dreams of doing. The best advice I can give (having been down the road of Down syndrome for almost a decade) is enjoy each day. Looking into the future is all unknown and scary. Just enjoy your baby and take it one day at a time. He will amaze you and break even some of your own stereotypes or limitations. Congratulations! I hope we can meet up one day.
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